Hello, world!
How have you been lately?
So just a couple of weeks ago, I actually broke a friendship…
If you asked me some years ago about how I felt about this – I’d probably be all, “Omg, this is horrible! We need to make up!”
But right now? I honestly never felt BETTER!!! 😌😌😌
You might think that I’m a horrible person… And sometimes I won’t disagree with you. 😂
But for this particular friendship… Losing this friend was really more of a gain in my life!
In this post, I’m not going to reveal names or anything related to real identities. Heck, I won’t even mention the gender. 😉 You just enjoy the story, yea?
So Ex-F (actually stands for ex-‘friend’; but ‘F’ can be so many things! So you let your imagination go there; ex-friend, ex-f**ker, ex-fiend, ex-figglybooboo…) was someone who I got to see quite often and was honestly one of the most self-loving self-obsessed people I knew.
In a nutshell, Ex-F is the sort that will go, “If you cannot accept me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.”
Yeaaaa 😒
Ex-F’s worst was something like, “YOU STUPID, UGLY BITCH! I don’t care what you say!!! I WANT IT MY WAYYY!!!”
While the best was something like, “I’m in a good mood today. You can bring me to this restaurant. Don’t I look wonderful??”
*PUKESSS*
Ex-F often self-proclaimed him/herself on a daily basis as high-class (quite an oxymoron, if you have to proclaim it for yourself…), good GREAT-looking and talented.
It was unbelievably annoying.
While I admire self-confidence; I don’t appreciate self-delusion or unfounded arrogance.
Since we’re no longer friends; I don’t see the point of maintaining any loyalty. The truth is… Ex-F is one of the weirdest-looking people I’ve set my eyes on! Ex-F has this look that is really neither here nor there… but that’s just my own opinion; and some people do like a unique look.
However Ex-F the most unclassy personality as well.
Ex-F actually flaunted that he/she had a fling with a married person. Wtf?!
And Ex-F even went on and on about how the fling’s spouse couldn’t even compare… Wa lao, seriously. 😒 I was actually super turned off back then. Cheating, no matter how right it feels, shouldn’t be something you show off like a prize in your trophy cabinet.
It was awfully tiring being Ex-F’s friend… His/her typical dialogue goes like this…
Ex-F: Omg, look at that woman! How UGLYYYY!!!! I pity her husband…
Ex-F: Look at that fat bitch. Ugh. I’m not going to attend the party if she is there! I don’t party with lame people.
Ex-F: Did you see my latest Facebook profile picture? Why didn’t you ‘like’ it?
All of this, I attributed to severely low self-esteem that caused the need to put others down to feel better about one’s self.
And all of that was just so tiring to maintain. 😩
Sincere apologies – but at this age… I don’t give a royal rat’s ass about entertaining such idiots anymore.
And Ex-F even tried to get other people to ‘hate on me’; but it just made me happy:
- Ex-F is indeed a horribly toxic person to have in your life
- Those people are like Ex-F; so lesser people to give a shit about
People like that don’t realise…
Friendships don’t exist to only validate their existence and perceived values; friendships are a two-way traffic and are not meant for one-sided worship. That, will be idolising; NOT friendship.
And friendships are often reflections of what really matters to you as a person deep down. How your friends are; what they say, how they act and what they do – are clear indications of what you like to have in your life.
Don’t be shy about kicking out toxic people in your life; because life is too short to eat shitty food and hang around with shitty people. If you have so much time to entertain such wankers, go discover a cure for cancer or something.
So really be careful of who you choose to surround yourself with; because you gradually become like them. 😌 Don’t waste your precious time entertaining such people, when you could be loving those who are worth it.
XOXO, G.
Gera Shen 